Check out our latest podcast where Tamekia and I dive into marriage and fitness and how we keep each other motivated, having a blast along the way.
Why Fitness Is a Big Deal for Me
Fitness is a big deal for me because I'm naturally goal-oriented, almost to a fault. I'm 52 now, but my commitment to fitness has been strong ever since I first let myself slip back in 1997. I used to run consistently until 1994, but when my dad passed away in 1995, while running, no less, I took a break. After a year of regrouping, I got back on track, and when I moved to Arizona, things really took off.
Tracking Everything, Pressuring No One
I started tracking everything, setting personal goals, and pushing myself to hit those targets. It even got to the point where I'd feel disappointed if I didn't meet my own standards. I still have a spreadsheet full of "requirements" I keep for myself, and they're my own goals, I don't project them onto my family, friends, or especially my wife and kids.
I'm all about encouraging anyone interested in fitness for physical or mental health, because mental fitness matters just as much, but I don't believe in pressuring anyone. Everyone has their own approach, and that's totally fine. I'm here to support, not to push.
How It Strengthens the Relationship
What's fascinating is how fitness, even when done separately, can improve a relationship. Research, like the study from Psychology Today, shows that physical activity boosts natural mood enhancers, like endorphins, which make us feel good, calm, and happier overall.
Exercising doesn't just improve health, it can also foster a stronger emotional connection between partners. When both of us feel good physically, it reflects in our relationship. Feeling accomplished in our fitness routines gives us confidence, reduces stress, and helps us communicate better.
This is just the start of the conversation around marriage and fitness. We talk about how we have fun with our fitness goals, motivate each other without any pressure, and find real joy in the journey. If you're navigating your own journey with fitness and marriage, we'd love to hear about it, feel free to contact us.